Being violated teaches and challenges you. Consider that the violation from external energy can shrink you or make you fight. It can show you what to allow and what not to allow in your life. and consider the creation or loosening of boundaries. Sometimes, depending on the situation, a violation received can leave you feeling disempowered, like a seed planted in the ground that suffocates, rots, and dies.
I am challenging you to consider the violations you have received as opportunities to teach you to set proper boundaries, to understand your self-worth, and to understand what is right, what feels good to you, and what you will allow. I am encouraging you to allow the violation to teach you how to spring forth and grow above it.
Consider the seed that’s buried in the ground. That seed ultimately is being violated. It’s put under the soil, where there’s no air, no light, and the only water comes from rain or a merciful soul who decides to pour. Consider that the seed is fed up with the energy that has caused this suffocation, and the only way for the seed to survive is to break out of its shell and search for the nearest rescue exit. It needs water. There may be moisture locked deep within the soil, which it struggles to find and hold on to.
Consider, you pull a weed out of a summer-dry, overgrown ground. And when you pull that weed out, recognize that, though the roots may be thin and it seems completely dead on the top, below ground, that root has found the tiniest portions of water within the soil and is still thriving. If you were to only pour water on it for a day or two, that root would begin to thrive again. It is a tough little booger that seeds roots, and it does somehow manage to extract the minutest portions of water from the earth and go deeper into the ground; Â the deeper it goes, the more it has access to greater water resources.
And after many days, it rains, and encourages the roots to push forth in a lateral, then vertical position upward and find its way through the rubble, through the stone, through the brush, to the surface, where it begins to sprout greenery. Now that it is beginning to sprout greenery, it has the capacity to build upon itself and to build a fortress around itself and within itself as a result of itself. The violation has now been the greatest tool that that little seed could ever have been given.
When you look at how you, as an individual, have been violated, and we all have, on some level, we get to consider how we use that violation. No, this is not saying that the violation received is a fair or needed thing. I disagree. It’s not fair, and it is not needed. At the same time, the violation has the capacity to produce such a phenomenal growth period and advancement within you as a little seed, within me as a little seed, to the point where the experienced violation no longer exists or has power.
Or, we can lie in wait for the rescue, wither, dry up or rot away. The choice is solely ours; always is and always has been.